Sex 101: A Guide to Intimacy for Newlywed Couples

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Other sexual materials also might help create some sparks in your love life. Do some research and see what you might be missing out on. Leslie Grace, R.N., is a registered nurse, certified tantra educator, tantric bodyworker, and the founder of Ritual Tantra, a San Francisco Bay Area-based community. A modern-day sexual healer and muse, she invites her clients and students into unique, experiential opportunities that evoke the fullness of one's erotic and personal potential. Just like the penis, the clitoris has a high concentration of nerve endings (4, 5). By touching and massaging these erogenous zones, signals in the body flood the nerves. This can send pleasurable feelings all over the body. Understanding your and your partner’s anatomy is important so that you both experience the highest amount of pleasure during sex.

Also send us topics you would like to see us cover in an episode and we will do so! We would love to know more about what you want to hear about. If I’m being honest, usually the best source that anyone has is the person they’re trying to be sexual with,” Dr. Jansen says. The people who are best at dirty talk are the people who, in her words, “are really good at just plain old regular talk with their partners about sex.”Always leave a lover better off than you found them by teaching them something about sex. If you have a new lover who isn’t very experienced, or who is doing something funny, teach them. Don’t just leave them and let them continue to the next person without saying something. We all need help to improve – be kind and teach every lover something new they can take with them to their next relationship. With mild, gentle soap and a clean cloth, wash the area around your genitals and anus. You can also press a soaped-up finger into your ass to clean out the entryway and begin your warm up. Again, gentle is key because the tissue inside the anal opening is delicate. Rinse well when you’re done. Use an enema or anal douche Rowley J, Vander Hoorn S, Korenromp E, Low N, Unemo M, Abu-Raddad LJ, et al. Global and regional estimates of the prevalence and incidence of four curable sexually transmitted infections in 2016. WHO Bulletin. 2019 Jun. Available from: https://www.who.int/bulletin/online_first/BLT.18.228486.pdf Rider (aka Cowgirl) : Rider style positions are characterized by the receiver being on top and straddling their giving partner. This gives the receiver greater control over the pace and rhythm of penetration.

Get Dr. Stormy’s brand NEW #1 book that she co-authored, The Transformational Journey : Stories in Business , Life and Happiness. Keep in mind that many women actually can’t orgasm through penetrative sex alone, so although it might be nice, it may not be the position she loves the most. Make sure your pubes and pubic mound are stimulating her clitoris. Woman on top – Doggy style in the car? Yep, you heard us right. Lowering one seat gives the penetrating partner room to lean over the receiving partner and provides plenty of leverage to push in deep, plus lots of opportunities for touch and hand play. You may know this position by its other less SFW name —“face sitting”— but Queening in Bondage is when a partner recieves oral stimulation while resting on or above their partner’s mouth. Adding restraint play to this is yet another way to up the sensation and intensity of the scene or sexual encounter, allowing the receiving partner to really own the power of the pose (as pictured here) or offering an equally sexy subversion if you switch places. Use safer sex practices . It can be easier to relax and enjoy yourself if you feel confident that you are practicing safer sex. With this in mind, make a plan to make your sex life as safe as possible. If you can, before you have sex, get to know your partner, and talk openly about your sexual histories. Use a condom or dental dam every time you have sex, and for the complete act. [1] X Research source Haavio-Mannila, E., & Kontula, O. (1997). Correlates of increased sexual satisfaction. Archives of sexual behavior, 26(4), 399-419Connect with your breath to expand the pleasure and sexual energy throughout the entire body, lighting up every cell with that life force. You can try staying with smaller, subtle movements or get as vigorous as you like, but either way, use your breath to draw orgasmic energy from your pelvis up the spine and up to your third eye (the spot between your eyebrows) or crown (the top of the head) and beyond. This mental preparation will help everyone be more at ease, which prevents any painful surprises and enhances the potential pleasure for the receiver as well as the giver. Receiving Partner is in Control Any vibrator or dildo with a flared base can be used anally, although some are designed with anal in mind. Anal vibrators (as well as vibrating butt plugs ) can encourage the sphincter muscles to relax when warming up. Anal dildos with suction cup bases allow for hands-free solo fun or strap-on pegging play with a partner. Prostate Toys

Remember too that every body is different. What’s perfect for one person might not work for someone else. If you’ve only just begun your booty play journey, don’t worry if it takes some trial and error to figure out what shape, style, and material are best for you. Butt plugsOne of the biggest anxieties around anal sex is the fear that it will hurt. So, I cannot stress this enough. Anal sex should NEVER hurt. From the bedroom to the beach, the reverse cowgirl position translates perfectly. It’s another one that protects the receiving partner from getting sand all over, while giving the penetrating partner the hottest view from behind. Spooning : With both partners lying on their sides, it reduces weight-bearing for both and can facilitate body relaxation. It also can create a greater sense of safety and intimacy.